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Pastoral Psychology

, Volume 67, Issue 6, pp 589–610 | Cite as

You Are My Friends: Pastoral Care with Young Mexican Men

  • Rubén ArjonaEmail author
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Abstract

In this article, the author discusses the significance of friendship in caring for and counseling with young men. Following Seward Hiltner, he affirms the distinction between friendliness (or friendly disposition) and friendship. Insofar as friendliness implies warmth and genuine concern, caregiving and counseling relationships can benefit from the minister’s friendly disposition. The author argues that ministers can effectively counsel with young Mexican men who are both their parishioners and their friends. To illustrate this point, he presents and discusses the case of a Mexican minister (Pastor Garza) and a young Mexican man (Alonso). By reflecting on the friendship motif in the Gospel of John, he concludes the article with the idea that friendship and counseling can coexist despite the power differential and imperfect mutuality between the minister and the care seeker.

Keywords

Friendliness Friendship Mexican men Pastoral care Counseling 

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Authors and Affiliations

  1. 1.Iliff School of TheologyDenverUSA

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