What I Felt Like Doing, but did Not Do When I Felt Hurt: An REBT-Based Investigation of Action Tendencies that are Not Acted On
In this questionnaire-based study, we investigated the action tendencies that 100 people reported having, but did not act on, in specific situations in which they felt hurt. An awareness of these types of unacted-on tendencies will help rational emotive behavior therapy therapists to be alert to the possible presence of hurt feelings and hurt-related motivational states that clients do not readily report experiencing in ABC analyses of hurt-related emotional episodes.
KeywordsHurt Unacted-on action tendencies Action tendencies Rational emotive behavior therapy
This research was supported by a Grant from the Research Capability Fund in the Department of Professional and Community Education, Goldsmiths, University of London.
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