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Conditional Positive Regard

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Conditional positive regard (CPR) is providing warmth, affection, acceptance, and the like when certain conditions, standards, and/or expectations are met. This entry discusses the reasons for using CPR and the disadvantages and deleterious effects that arise from using it. Rogerian and self-determination theory perspectives on CPR are briefly discussed, as is effective uses of positive regard.

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Davis, O.C., Nguyen, Tv.T. (2017). Conditional Positive Regard. In: Zeigler-Hill, V., Shackelford, T. (eds) Encyclopedia of Personality and Individual Differences. Springer, Cham. https://doi.org/10.1007/978-3-319-28099-8_1458-1

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