Encyclopedia of Couple and Family Therapy

2019 Edition
| Editors: Jay L. Lebow, Anthony L. Chambers, Douglas C. Breunlin

Co-parenting in Couple and Family Therapy

  • Matthew D. SelekmanEmail author
Reference work entry
DOI: https://doi.org/10.1007/978-3-319-49425-8_851


Family therapy pioneers, researchers, and parenting experts alike have found that when there is consistent parental teamwork and unity with providing nurturance to and consistent limits for their children when they misbehave, their kids are more likely to thrive and function well in all areas of their lives (McHale and Lindahl 2011; Minuchin and Fishman 1981; Haley 1976; Minuchin 1974; Satir 1983; Sax 2016; Taffel 2009; DeFrain 2007; Omer 2004). This parenting style described above is well researched and known as authoritative parenting (Baumrind 1966; Larzelere et al. 2013). Additionally, the stronger the parents’ bonds are with their kids, the better they will be able to cope with life’s challenges; self-regulate their moods; are more self-motivated and self-confident; have more self-control; tend to be more resilient; less likely to develop anxiety and depressive symptoms or engage in self-destructive, aggressive, and delinquent behaviors; or join negative peer groups...

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Authors and Affiliations

  1. 1.Partners for Collaborative SolutionsEvanstonUSA

Section editors and affiliations

  • Mudita Rastogi
    • 1
  1. 1.Illinois School of Professional Psychology, Argosy UniversitySchaumburgUSA