The Coaching Relationship: A Mirror into the Self

  • Kelly Lewis


MIRRORS CAN BE EFFECTIVE TOOLS for self-development. They give you a choice to see (or not) what is being reflected back to you. When I accept what I see in the mirror, I grow into a better version of myself. This is also true of what I call my inner mirror. This is the mirror in which I see the part of me that is sitting just below the surface, patiently waiting for my attention, the mirror in which I see reflected my relationship with my coaching clients. Like the mirror that reflects my physical image, this mirror allows me to interpret the reflection as I choose. Sometimes I will see an inspired coach, sometimes a harsh critic. The fact is, the mirror doesn’t criticize, judge, exaggerate, or minimize light or shadow. I do that. The mirror, whether external or internal, creates an opportunity for me to accept or reject who I am at this very moment. It can facilitate or hinder my process of becoming, a process that I find essential for personal and professional development.


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© Christine Wahl, Clarice Scriber, and Beth Bloomfield 2013

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