• Matt Cook
Part of the Genders and Sexualities in History book series (GSX)


In June 2012 a geodesic dome tent was pitched on the rooftop terrace of the Hayward Gallery on London’s South Bank. This was the ‘Sundown Schoolhouse of Queer Home Economics’ where, for a month, you could learn and hone domestic skills — from cleaning and cooking to flower arranging and knitting. There were workshops on rug making, on ‘avant-gardening’, and on queer family trees, as well as discussions, performances and talks. It was, said school founder and Californian architect Fritz Haeg, a ‘rogue’ component of the Hayward’s ‘Wide Open School’ programme which took place inside the gallery itself.1 Just next door a few months later, the Royal Festival Hall hosted ‘Alternative Fairytales, Alternative Families’ — a day of performance and events celebrating ‘the rise of the alternative family’ and the estimated ‘10,000 same-sex parent families’ nationwide.2


Home Life Domestic Life Civil Partnership Alternative Family Oral Testimony 
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  • Matt Cook
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