Loyal Sons and the Domestic Ideal

  • Rebecca Friedman


Even as Nicholas Petrovich Kirsanov delighted in his son Arcadii’s return to the family estate after a number of years away at the university, he lamented the ever-increasing distance between himself and his son. ‘Oppressed with sad thoughts,’ Nicholas Petrovich ‘for the first time clearly realized the gulf that separated him from his son.’1 Weeks, months, and years spent at the university had widened the emotional and philosophical gap that opened between the generations. Although he had returned home, Arcadii largely rejected the past — personified by his father — in the hope of a more fulfilling future with his friend, the nihilist Bazarov. This familiar story, found in Ivan Turgenev’s Fathers and Sons, connected Arcadii’s distancing himself from his father with his own coming of age into new, more radical, political ideas.


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  • Rebecca Friedman
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  1. 1.Florida International UniversityUSA

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