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It’s More Than Deciding What to Wank Into: Negotiating an Unconventional Fatherhood

  • John Hadlow
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Abstract

This chapter makes explicit my own experiences as an informal sperm donor to a lesbian couple and the unusual conceptualisation of fatherhood this renders. Explored here in particular are the emerging negotiations whereby my fatherhood was and is constructed interdependently between family members and myself. As part of this journey, I reveal the anxiety about my use of autoethnography, not least because of the lasting effects the printed word has on those involved, irrespective of procedural anonymity.

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Authors and Affiliations

  • John Hadlow
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  1. 1.University of SuffolkIpswichUK

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