Feeling Through the Silences, Seeking Support, and Being ‘Saved’

  • Ava Kanyeredzi


Women’s experiences of escalating emotional distress and not feeling at home within their bodies prompt intervention or searches for support from a range of services and sources, including the police, social/mental health services, GPs, faith or religious organisations, with varying outcomes. These processes of ‘being saved’ enable them to move on with their lives, gain recognition of harm, and name and reframe abuse. Their strategies to prevent abuse include being watchful of current intimate partners and their own and other children within their families. Women use their photographs to map their distance from spaces where they experienced violence and abuse: those they use for distraction and those they would like to visit.


Faith Support Being watchful Mental distress 


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  • Ava Kanyeredzi
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  1. 1.School of PsychologyUniversity of East LondonLondonUK

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