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Marital Breakdown among British Asians

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This chapter examines remarriages among British Asians. The chapter documentscultural shifts in constructions of arranged marriages as more stable than love marriages, with parents supporting their divorced adult children to remarry with substantially more individual choice. Meanwhile, divorcees worked hard to keep their families on side with their choices. There were happy second marriages, but it was nonetheless a gamble. People approached remarriage with a caution that had its own destabilizing consequences, a finding that resonates with wider sociological work, but especially because of the frequency of transnational marriages in which awareness of spouses’ immigration interests created additional wariness. The chapterconcludes that remarriage is not a straightforward move towards consensual relationships, but may raise problems of mistrust.

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Qureshi, K. (2016). Staying Single. In: Marital Breakdown among British Asians. Palgrave Macmillan Studies in Family and Intimate Life. Palgrave Macmillan, London. https://doi.org/10.1057/978-1-137-57047-5_8

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