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(Post) Dating Masculinities: From Courtship to a Post-dating World

  • Chris Haywood
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Abstract

This chapter builds upon the discussion in the introduction about the range of meanings that surround how we understand dating. It introduces the idea that ‘Dating’ is one of a number epistemes that configure how we make sense of relationship initiation. The chapter is different from the others in that it primarily relies on historical accounts to explore how gender and relationship initiation has taken place. From an episteme of Instrumentalism, the chapter moves onto that of Courtship, Calling and Dating before exploring the notion of Post-dating. It is suggested that in this episteme of Post-dating, themes of neoliberalism, authenticity and marketization are shaping men’s dating practices.

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  • Chris Haywood
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  1. 1.Media, Culture and HeritageNewcastle UniversityNewcastle-upon-TyneUK

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