First Encounters

  • Chris Haywood


This chapter provides an overview of the key themes of the book. It provides a working definition of dating and the focus of the book. In doing so, the book explores the relationship between masculinity and heterosexuality. The chapter then provides information on the research dynamics for the book and specifically explores the relationship between masculinity and methodology. After drawing out the aims of the book, the chapter provides short synopses of the subsequent chapters.


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  • Chris Haywood
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  1. 1.Media, Culture and HeritageNewcastle UniversityNewcastle-upon-TyneUK

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