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Negotiating Intimacy: Obedience, Compromise and Resistance

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Migration not only brings about changes to the migrants’ working lives, but also has a profound influence on their intimate relations with their partners and natal families. This chapter addresses the process of partner choosing and workers’ relationships with their natal families and partners. The primary reason to examine intimate relations is that family members, including partners, are considered the most treasured aspects of life by my informants, according to the survey I conducted in 2012. Migrant workers are enmeshed in a web of different social roles. According to my findings, the workers tended to consider themselves in relation to other members in their families rather than as individuals; these findings are similar to those of Lin (2013) in his study of male migrant workers in Guangdong province. The idea that they are working for the wellbeing of the family encourage them to accept the tedium of daily work in Shanghai. For many of them, work is a means to an end, and the end is the family. It is therefore crucial to examine the migrants’ interactions with partners and parents.

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Notes

  1. 1.

    Marry (Jia ren or qu) as a verb in Chinese is different from that in English. Jia ren refers to a woman marrying a man, whereas qu refers to a man marrying a woman. The Chinese for ‘to marry’ has patrilineal and patriarchal connotations.

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    For detailed discussions on xiangqin from a historical perspective starting from the Mao era, please see Yan (1996, 2003) and Parish and Whyte (1978).

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Shen, Y. (2019). Negotiating Intimacy: Obedience, Compromise and Resistance. In: Beyond Tears and Laughter. New Perspectives on Chinese Politics and Society. Palgrave Macmillan, Singapore. https://doi.org/10.1007/978-981-13-5817-3_5

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