Relationship Ethics

  • Chao Yang
Chapter

Abstract

This chapter examines the changing ethics in personal relationships by focusing on young people’s understandings of traditional Confucian and socialist morality as well as an emerging new ethics within diversified forms of dating and relationships. As Ahmed (The Promise of Happiness, Duke University Press, Durham; 2010) indicates in the work The Promise of Happiness, a happy relationship is often seen to be shaped by a virtuous self (pp. 205, 208). The interpretations of relationship ethics define Chinese youth’s values and practices in respect of love and intimacy, which may further imply a changing understanding of personal happiness in the post-reform era.

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  • Chao Yang
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  1. 1.Renmin University of ChinaBeijingChina

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