Mutuality and the Marital Engagement – Type of Union Scale [ME (To US)]: Empirical Support for a Clinical Instrument in Couples Therapy

  • Jefferson A. SingerEmail author
  • Beata Labunko
  • Nicole Alea
  • Jenna L. Baddeley


This chapter provides initial psychometric support for a clinical instrument that measures mutuality in couples. The Mutuality and the Marital Engagement – Type of Union Scale [ME (To US)] is a 10-item inventory that assesses relationship mutuality in multiple domains, including domestic chores, finances, childrearing, sexual intimacy, and relations with in-laws. Study 1 examined the reliability and predictive validity of the ME (To US) in relation to marital quality and satisfaction, as well as health complaints. Study 2 replicated these findings and looked at discrepancies in mutuality in couples as predictors of satisfaction and self-reported physical health. Implications for the clinical application of the ME (To US) are discussed.


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Authors and Affiliations

  • Jefferson A. Singer
    • 1
    Email author
  • Beata Labunko
    • 2
  • Nicole Alea
    • 3
  • Jenna L. Baddeley
    • 4
    • 5
  1. 1.Department of PsychologyConnecticut CollegeNew LondonUSA
  2. 2.Clifford Beers Guidance ClinicNew HavenUSA
  3. 3.Department of Behavioural Sciences, Faculty of Social SciencesThe University of the West IndiesSt. AugustineTrinidad & Tobago
  4. 4.The Ralph H. Johnson VA Medical CenterCharlestonUSA
  5. 5.Medical University of South CarolinaCharlestonUSA

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