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The purpose of this chapter is to provide a brief review on child rearing practices in Chinese culture, with a particular emphasis on three practices that are related to development of shyness in Chinese children: shaming, overprotective/intrusive parenting, and encouragement of modesty. Drawing upon LeVine’s model of culture and parenting, the chapter reviews traditional and contemporary child rearing practices in the context of recent social and economic changes in Mainland China, and how some of these parenting practices may be related to the development of shyness in Chinese children. The chapter concludes that parenting practices such as shaming and overprotective/intrusive parenting may be related to development of anxious shyness, whereas parents’ encouragement of modesty appears to be associated with expression of regulated shyness in Chinese children.
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Xu, Y., Zhang, L., Hee, P. (2014). Parenting Practices and Shyness in Chinese Children. In: Selin, H. (eds) Parenting Across Cultures. Science Across Cultures: The History of Non-Western Science, vol 7. Springer, Dordrecht. https://doi.org/10.1007/978-94-007-7503-9_2
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