Gay Fathers’ Involvement in their Young Children’s Lives

  • Dana BerkowitzEmail author
  • Katherine A. Kuvalanka
Part of the Educating the Young Child book series (EDYC, volume 6)


As the contemporary fathering and family landscape grows increasingly more complex, a growing body of scholars are beginning to expand knowledge on the social matrix of men’s relationships with children by exploring the experiences of gay men as potential and active fathers. This chapter provides an overview of the existing empirical and theoretical scholarship on gay fathers and their involvement with children. In addition to reviewing the dominant themes in the literature, we detail the changing legalities facing gay fathers and their families, suggest implications for policy makers and practitioners, and offer practical resources for educators.


Gay fathers Gay parenting Fathering Families Family relationships Children of gay parents Family diversity 


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Authors and Affiliations

  1. 1.Sociology and Women’s and Gender StudiesLouisiana State UniversityBaton RougeUSA,
  2. 2.Miami University of OhioOxfordUSA,

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