Abstract
Conflict is often experienced as a negative force in relationships. This chapter explores the definition and dynamics of both healthy and destructive conflict. In doing this, it seeks out ways in which healthy conflict can strengthen relationships and highlights how negative outcomes can be mitigated. Issues of motivation and communication are discussed exploring ways to reduce the potential for misunderstanding and maximize positive resolution of issues.
Lois Edmund is Assistant Professor, Conflict Resolution Studies at Menno Simons College, Winnipeg, Manitoba, and Book Reviews Editor of Peace Research Journal.
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Edmund, L. (2012). Conflict and Confrontation. In: Roffey, S. (eds) Positive Relationships. Springer, Dordrecht. https://doi.org/10.1007/978-94-007-2147-0_16
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