‘I am stumped whenever someone asks me what am I doing’, said Sujata in a mortified tone. A 27-year-old, frail Sujata was a lawyer by training and was working in the field of human rights’ activism. In our two interactions, she shared her past history and her present scatter, alternating between doubts and clarity, idealism and practicality, hurt and humiliation and healing. Her confusions were stemming from not knowing ‘where she was going’ both in work as well as in her relationships. She was simultaneously beset with value conflicts over her work, parental pressures to marry and uncertainty about a love relationship.