Präsenzen 2.0 pp 227-253 | Cite as

Un-Friend My Heart

Facebook, Promiscuity, and Heartbreak in a Neoliberal Age
  • Ilana GershonEmail author
Part of the Medienkulturen im digitalen Zeitalter book series (MEDIZE)


In 2007 and 2008, I interviewed 72 p eople, mostly college students at my home institution, about how they use new media when they are breaking up. For my second interview, Rose, one of my former students, brought a list of rules and suggestions for other people about how to manage their relationships. She was always a very well-prepared student and I suspect might have been under the impression that I was writing a self-help book.


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  1. 1.IndianaUSA

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