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Technology’s role in couple and family life is of acute importance in advancing the work of psychotherapists with couples and families. The Internet’s contribution to the development and maintenance of maladaptive relationship dynamics is now a predominate feature in our lives. In this chapter, I describe the impact of new media and technologies on individuals, couples, and families. I discuss how families organize around technology in ways that are adaptive and of assistance to them, as well as in ways that interfere with their development and functioning. Finally, I provide ways in which couples and families can use technology to their advantage, as members adapt roles, rules, and boundaries to evolving technology.
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Hertlein, K.M. (2018). Technology in Relational Systems: Roles, Rules, and Boundaries. In: Van Hook, J., McHale, S., King, V. (eds) Families and Technology. National Symposium on Family Issues, vol 9. Springer, Cham. https://doi.org/10.1007/978-3-319-95540-7_5
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