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‘…Always Should Be Someone You Really Love’

  • Lucy Neville
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Abstract

This chapter explores the role of romance and love in participants’ use of gay male erotica and pornography. A large section of the sample discussed how important the relationship (or perceived relationship) between the characters was when they were reading or watching m/m erotic content. This chapter investigates this, and what it might have to offer to the longstanding, though not uncontested, assertion that men like ‘porn’ and women like ‘erotica’.

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  • Lucy Neville
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  1. 1.University of LeicesterLeicesterUK

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