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Self-Forgiveness and Hypersexual Behavior

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In this chapter, we explore the role of self-forgiveness in hypersexual behavior. Hypersexual behavior, also known as sexual addiction, sexual compulsivity, and sexual impulsivity, involves sexual thoughts, feelings, and behaviors that are excessive, difficult to control, and cause distress and problems in a person’s life. It is theorized that individuals engage in hypersexual behavior in response to dysphoric mood states (e.g., depression, anxiety). Although hypersexual behavior alleviates the dysphoric mood states temporarily, the relief is time-limited, and is often accompanied by feelings of guilt and shame, prompting individuals to re-engage in the sexual behavior. Self-forgiveness may play a role in alleviating dysphoric mood states and maladaptive shame and guilt, providing hope for individuals dealing with hypersexual behavior. We present a model for how self-forgiveness can reduce shame, guilt, and hypersexual behavior, adduce evidence supporting the model, and present an agenda for future research.

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  1. University of North Texas, Denton, TX, USA

    David K. Mosher & Joshua N. Hook

  2. Bowling Green State University, Bowling Green, OH, USA

    Joshua B. Grubbs

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  3. School of Psychology, Flinders University of South Australia, Adelaide, South Australia, Australia

    Michael Wenzel

  4. San Francisco Veterans Affairs Medical Center, San Francisco, California, USA

    Brandon J. Griffin

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Mosher, D.K., Hook, J.N., Grubbs, J.B. (2017). Self-Forgiveness and Hypersexual Behavior. In: Woodyatt, L., Worthington, Jr., E., Wenzel, M., Griffin, B. (eds) Handbook of the Psychology of Self-Forgiveness. Springer, Cham. https://doi.org/10.1007/978-3-319-60573-9_20

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