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Relationship Coaching

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At the core of every interpersonal conflict is a relationship issue. Good relationship skills can be learned and applied to all relationships. The information covered in Chap. 9 is specifically about couple relationships, but most relationship concepts can be translated into all human relationships, which can be useful for both coaches and the clients they serve. The literature presented in this chapter comes primarily from relationship education literature. Models and articles on relationship coaching from the coaching psychology literature are reviewed. The majority of relationship research and evidence-based practices reviewed come from family science literature. This chapter covers the history of relationship education, components of a healthy relationship, and information on applying relationship coaching with clients.

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    There are a plethora of resources for families available from the National Extension Relationship and Marriage Education Network website: http://www.nermen.org/NERMEM.php

Further Reading

There are a plethora of resources for families available from the National Extension Relationship and Marriage Education Network website: http://www.nermen.org/NERMEM.php

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Allen, K. (2016). Relationship Coaching. In: Theory, Research, and Practical Guidelines for Family Life Coaching. Springer, Cham. https://doi.org/10.1007/978-3-319-29331-8_9

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