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The chapter provides guidance for those contemplating the very important decision of anticipating- and pursuing- the decision of preparing for one’s future spouse. The author provides principles that young adults can apply to each stage of the preparation process, including building the right personal foundation for making this event possible, how to believe for the right person, and what actions to take once one thinks he or she might have met that person.
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Jeynes, W. (2015). Preparing for Your Future Spouse. In: Jeynes, W., Martinez, E. (eds) Ministering Spiritually to Families. Springer, Cham. https://doi.org/10.1007/978-3-319-13302-7_5
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