Abstract
Becoming a parent is, by and large, a wonderful experience. It is also a hugely challenging experience. My wife and I have two fabulous sons, aged 3 and 6 respectively and we love them to pieces. But there are times when we crave to be apart from them. This is certainly not the same as wishing they were not in our lives; this could not be any further from the truth. Sometimes we just need some alone time; time to recharge, time to reconnect with ourselves and one another and, dare I say it, time to catch up on the things we did before we had children. These ‘things’ I refer to are more often than not highly mundane, like taking the dogs for a long walk (without having to stop off at the playground en route, or without having to carry scooters up ‘that’ hill), washing the cars (without the ‘assistance’ of little helpers), or even having a soak in the bath (without the inevitable banging on the door). And a lie in at the weekend, well forget about it. Personally, what I crave the most is time to devote to playing and, to a lesser extent, watching sport. My wife and I have been together since the age of 15 and for the next 17 years I played sport pretty much guilt free. Like many of the participants in this book, sport is an incredibly important part of my life. I have been a student of the sociology of sport since I was 18 years old. My PhD took sport as its starting point and I have chosen a career educating young people about sport and its social significance. But two young children later and I struggle to carve out even a modest amount of time to follow the world of sport, never mind actively participate in it.
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Notes
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Conventionally, the term ‘parent’ has been applied to the birth mother or father, but it has become socially and politically diversified in recent years. Changes in demographic structures and patterns of family life mean that ‘parent’ is now applied to a wealth of living arrangements and adult responsibilities vis a vis children. For the purposes of this book ‘parent’ will be used as a generic term for any adult with de facto responsibility for the ongoing domestic care and welfare of the child.
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In their study of care and family responsibilities, Finch and Mason (1993) make the distinction between explicit and implicit negotiations. Explicit negotiations are those which arise from or are prompted by specific needs and events. Their essence is that they involve open discussion in which two or more parties seek to develop a common understanding of where the balance or responsibility to give and receive help should lie, in a specific set of circumstances. Implicit negotiations are those where there is no open discussion among parties, yet people do find ways of communicating with each other about what kinds of responsibilities they regard as reasonable for them to undertake. These negotiations might take place over a more prolonged period of time, meaning that certain people become associated with specific tasks and performances. As a result, when a specific need arises it seems obvious who would take the lead.
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For a list of all sports recognised by Sport England, visit https://www.sportengland.org/our-work/national-governing-bodies/sports-that-we-recognise/, Sport Wales, visit http://sport.wales/media/1990453/recognised_sports_and_governing_bodies.pdf, Sport Scotland, visit https://sportscotland.org.uk/media/4558/list-of-uk-recognised-ngbs-and-sport-list-january-2019.pdf, Sport Northern Ireland, visit http://www.sportni.net/performance/governing-bodies/list/, UK Sport, visit https://www.uksport.gov.uk/sports.
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Esports is as “a form of sports where the primary aspects of the sport are facilitated by electronic systems; the input of players and teams as well as the output of the eSports system are mediated by human-computer interface” (Hamari and Sjöblom, 2017). In more practical terms, eSports commonly refer to competitive (pro and amateur) video gaming that is often coordinated by different leagues, ladders and tournaments, and where players customarily belong to teams or other ‘sporting’ organisations which are sponsored by various business organisations. During recent years, eSports (electronic sports) have become one of the most rapidly growing forms of new media driven by the growing provenance of (online) games and online broadcasting technologies.
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Black and minoritised ethnic (BME) is a popular acronym used in policy circles in the UK, used to denote the diverse positions and identities of racialised ethnic groups not included under the label of ethnic majority in the UK. I acknowledge that the term includes a huge amount of internal diversity.
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