The Tales That Bind Us: Family Stories in Young Children’s Development

  • Kelli Jo Kerry-MoranEmail author
Part of the Educating the Young Child book series (EDYC, volume 16)


Family stories are the tales family members tell about themselves within their family unit. These narratives may be about deceased ancestors as well as living family members of all ages and describe both the ordinary and extraordinary events of their lives. Sharing family stories helps infants and young children develop language. Young children are aided in their social, emotional, and cognitive development as they build family bonds and healthy self-concepts. Through these stories many young children learn about living relatives as well as their deceased ancestors. They strengthen their connections to family members and build a strong sense of self while establishing their place within the family unit. This chapter focuses on the role family stories play in encouraging healthy development in infants and young children and the ways families and teachers can support children in learning through family stories.


Family stories Intergenerational stories Collaborative reminiscing Family history Personal narrative 


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  1. 1.Indiana University of PennsylvaniaIndianaUSA

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