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This chapter describes the experience and expression of love as respect, admiration, and submission to other. Scholarly literature does not commonly discuss these forms of love, even though they are widely accepted in many cultures as attributes of love. The chapter reviews cross-cultural studies of love as respect and submission. The pleasure of submission in love is illustrated with Japanese indigenous concept of amae.
The chapter reviews the variety of experiences and expressions of respect, admiration, and submission, the methods and measures, which researchers employed to study those, and the results that they obtained in their studies. The chapter describes in detail (1) the research designs, (2) methods, (3) instruments and measures, (4) samples (including their location, sample size, and other details), and (5) the data and results of studies (including descriptive statistics, such as means and size of correlations).
The details of descriptive statistics help readers understand what the differences in the means for cultural samples are, what is the size of correlations, and other statistics. These details allow readers to make independent judgments about reliability and validity of results.
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Karandashev, V. (2019). Love as Respect, Admiration, and Submission to a Partner. In: Cross-Cultural Perspectives on the Experience and Expression of Love . Springer, Cham. https://doi.org/10.1007/978-3-030-15020-4_10
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