Parent Journeys Through Cisgenderism

Part of the Critical and Applied Approaches in Sexuality, Gender and Identity book series (CAASGI)


This chapter examines four ways in which parents may shape their children’s gender expression: challenging or shaping interests, differential treatment, direct instructions, and modelling. The chapter considers how each of these plays out in the literature on parents of transgender children. The chapter also considers literature that has been critical of negative narratives with regards to parenting transgender children, instead exploring how parents resist cisgenderism. The chapter presents two case studies that focus on parent journeys to affirming transgender children, including being critical of normative gender ideologies.


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Authors and Affiliations

  1. 1.College of Education, Psychology and Social WorkFlinders UniversityAdelaideAustralia

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