Friendship and Reserve in Neighbourhood Commerce

  • Jennifer WilkinsonEmail author
Part of the Palgrave Macmillan Studies in Family and Intimate Life book series (PSFL)


This chapter begins a three-part examination of the role of friendship in neighbour relations. In late twentieth-century debates about neighbours, an over-riding concern with maintaining privacy within a shared public space has a major influence on how friendship is viewed. Empirical neighbourhood studies reveal more evidence of people making friends with neighbours than may at first appear. However, the preoccupation in these debates about neighbouring, with the home as an organisational site of privacy, allows scant opportunity to consider the possibility of befriending one’s neighbours. In contrast, viewing neighbours through the lens of friendship offers an alternative view of privacy, one subject to individual negotiation, thus suggesting that the boundaries between public and private spheres are irrelevant when friendships are strong.


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  1. 1.University of SydneySydneyAustralia

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