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Courtship in Stepfamilies

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How do stepfamily couples find each other? What is dating like for parents? In this chapter we examine who gets remarried and who does not, who cohabits with stepchildren and who does not, the motivations to remarry or repartner, the barriers to remarriage or repartnering, and courtship differences between first marriages and remarriages. We then examine dating prior to remarriage and how adults prepare for a remarriage.

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Ganong, L., Coleman, M. (2017). Courtship in Stepfamilies. In: Stepfamily Relationships. Springer, Boston, MA. https://doi.org/10.1007/978-1-4899-7702-1_4

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