Communicating: The Arts of Listening and Effectively Expressing Feelings

  • Robert P. Liberman
  • Eugenie G. Wheeler
  • Louis A. J. M. de Visser
  • Julie Kuehnel
  • Timothy Kuehnel
Part of the Applied Clinical Psychology book series (NSSB)


For effective communication, both what we say and how we say it are important. Becoming aware of the pleases that are wanted by a spouse is a tremendous step forward in the communication process, but knowing what to say without the ability to transmit the message can transform intended pleases into bombshells. In this chapter we explore the skills of listening and expressing that determine personal effectiveness and marital satisfaction.


Communication Skill Negative Feeling Marital Satisfaction Homework Assignment Marriage Partner 
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© Springer Science+Business Media New York 1980

Authors and Affiliations

  • Robert P. Liberman
    • 1
    • 2
  • Eugenie G. Wheeler
    • 3
  • Louis A. J. M. de Visser
    • 4
    • 5
  • Julie Kuehnel
    • 1
    • 6
  • Timothy Kuehnel
    • 1
    • 2
  1. 1.University of CaliforniaLos AngelesUSA
  2. 2.Camarillo State HospitalCamarilloUSA
  3. 3.Oxnard Community Mental Health CenterOxnardUSA
  4. 4.Loyola-Marymount UniversityLos AngelesUSA
  5. 5.Santa Clara High SchoolOxnardUSA
  6. 6.California Lutheran CollegeThousand OaksUSA

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