Imagery and Family Therapy

Abstract

A major problem frequently encountered in families in therapy is the need of each family member to control others. Four ineffective forms of control are described: shaming, threats, ridicule, and rejection. The degree to which the need for control pervades our culture is evident in myths and fairytales of our culture. These myths involve the use of magical powers for control and protection from evil and the unknown. In contrast, the Native American myths involve searching for knowledge by talking with animals and the joining of the unknown to overcome fear and evil.

In family therapy this same need for control and fear of searching the unknown are major barriers to change. Metaphoric images are recognized as useful means to overcome this resistance. A metaphoric tale constructed for this purpose needs to have elements that will connect the tale to the family, since the story must be available to the family when they are ready to face the unknown and consider change. The tales also need to include information describing the dynamics of the family’s problems, information that if presented more directly probably would be denied by the family. Information suggesting change and alternatives can also be included in the tale.

Metaphoric images are proving to be an important technique of family therapy. This paper will examine several factors used in the creation of such images. First, the paper will examine common control techniques often used within the family, and then will look at the nature of control through myths and fairy tales. Finally, an examination of the problems and resistance that develop in family therapy will reveal some of the uses of imagery along with a system for creating these images or metaphors.