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Amanda had come to the group wanting to learn how to be calmer in parenting her 9 year old daughter who was recently diagnosed with ADHD. In the second session, she described her experience looking at her daughter with beginner’s mind: “It was a revelation to me. Normally I see her as my challenge. But while she was talking, I noticed how sensitive and kind she is. She really is her own little person, separate from me.”
Could there be any better way to get my nose rubbed in the truth of impermanence than to love a child in a jagged, careless world? Napping with Skye in my king-sized bed – his head on my breast, my nose pressed against the dark silk of his hair – I watch the heartbeat fluttering in the soft spot on his skull… And even if everything goes absolutely perfectly, I know that this particular Skye – the one who warbles and passionately sucks on the bill of his rubber duck as he splashes with me in the tub – is going to dissolve like bubble bath. Yesterday he was a kicking bulge in my belly as I swam laps in the July sun; tomorrow he’ll be a middle-aged man, weeping and scattering my ashes in a mountain lake.
Anne Cushman (2001)
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Bögels, S., Restifo, K. (2014). Session 2: Beginner’s Mind Parenting. In: Mindful Parenting. Mindfulness in Behavioral Health. Springer, New York, NY. https://doi.org/10.1007/978-1-4614-7406-7_6
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