Expectations Versus Reality: A Humanistic and Practical Perspective

  • Eric A. Kreuter
  • Kenneth M. MoltnerEsq.
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Abstract

Expectations, explicit or implicit, are pervasive, confronting us in almost every area of life. Depending on how meaningful the expectation, the failure to satisfy it can cause the feeling of loss of relevancy; in other words, the chasm between expectation and reality is important to defining our feelings of loss of relevancy. Expectations are conclusions that we ourselves draw and are largely based on our history of experiences as well as our dreams and fears. Reality measures expectations with hindsight. Society is constantly trying to establish our expectations and they dominate in the political and entertainment spheres. Expectation of the norm, implicit acceptance without consciously acknowledging or confronting an expectation, provides comfort. The feeling of loss of relevancy created by the gap between a person’s expectation and her reality can manifest itself in many ways, such as a knot in the pit of one’s stomach. Our expectations are influenced by numerous factors, including the past experiences that we choose to bring to bear in a particular situation, the outside influences we choose to accept or internalize, compared to those that we reject, emotions-anger, feat-suppression, and our moral compass. How much one’s expectation is based in reality, and how important that expectation is to the person, is proportional to the feeling of loss of relevancy if the expectation is not met. The extent to which we perceive that an expectation is based in reality is the foundation upon which the difference between expectation and reality, and thus the resulting feelings of loss of relevancy and frustration, is based.

Keywords

Dust Mold Assure Stake Milton 

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Authors and Affiliations

  • Eric A. Kreuter
    • 1
  • Kenneth M. MoltnerEsq.
  1. 1.Cambridge Institute of Psychology and religion (Cambridge, MA)Yorktown HeightsUSA

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