Introduction

Abstract

The subjective reality of socialized beings can be transformed. Though we exist as individuals, we have commonality with others. People form bonds and wish to be part of the collective. The self; therefore, is a social construct. We are capable of reshaping negative patterns to be replaced with more positive themes. Many people have weak connections in their lives. Exploring is a necessary first step in order to attempt true and lasting transformation. What we know about our everyday life is structured around relevances. Common occurrences and circumstances encountered in the average life impact positively or negatively on our interior sense of relevancy. Resiliency is a constant adaptive trait, but not one we are born with. Coaching is a way to help a person suffering from loss or perceived irrelevance. Relevancy can be defined as a relative state of feeling of attachment to what, according to the individual, are the major elements of one’s life: family, career, peer-network, social network, organizational affiliations, and other aspect of a full life. Connectedness provides an important element of meaning in one’s life. Isolated individuals may experience feelings of loneliness or abandonment. Attachment, as a distinct construct, is the depth of one’s connections with others within a shared cause and the level of responsibility inherent in the role. Our actions can lead to habits. The human condition requires a never-ending struggle to cope and deal with events and situations. Some struggles will be more difficult than others.