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In this chapter, the lens zooms in on some of the most frequent personality patterns that were described by the ex-husbands in the study as having been exhibited by their ex-wives in the most contentious of these cases. These data are also supplemented by information I have gleaned from numerous others I have seen in therapy, in coaching, in doing live case consultations for other therapists’ clients, and when presenting at hospital grand rounds. It is important to reiterate here that this volume has been written partly to fill the gap in the literature which has often failed to present divorce and its impact and fallout from the fathers’ point of view. Thus, some of what is said in this chapter about the personality patterns and behaviors of the mothers in the cases discussed might well be applicable in reverse, with some variations, to fathers in similar cases told from the ex-wife’s point of view – particularly if he had been designated the primary custodial parent. This chapter is predicated on the men’s stories and on some cases drawn from my case files.
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Kaslow, F.W. (2013). Why Can Some Individuals Share Their Children, While Others Cannot, or Will Not? Is Personality a Major Key?. In: Divorced Fathers and Their Families. Springer, New York, NY. https://doi.org/10.1007/978-1-4614-5535-6_17
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