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Relationships Between Young Adults and Their Parents

  • Karen L. FingermanEmail author
  • Yen-Pi Cheng
  • Lauren Tighe
  • Kira S. Birditt
  • Steven Zarit
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Part of the National Symposium on Family Issues book series (NSFI, volume 2)

Abstract

Relationships between young adults and their parents have received considerable media attention in recent years. However, research on relationships between young adult children and their parents during the transition to adulthood are scant. Using data from the Family Exchanges Study and national data sets, we document parental involvement in the lives of young adult children (aged 18–24). Parents and offspring are highly involved in one another’s lives as evident by their phone conversations (more than once a week) and frequent parental financial, practical, and emotional support. This involvement represents an increase from parental involvement 30 years ago. Students are more likely to talk with parents by phone, and nonstudents are more likely to see parents in person. Students received more support from their parents than nonstudents, and that support contributed to their life satisfaction. Parents also use student status as an indicator of the offspring’s potential future success and experience more positive relationships with grown children they view as on target for achieving adult milestones.

Keywords

Life Satisfaction Relationship Quality Young Adulthood Parental Involvement Parental Support 
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Authors and Affiliations

  • Karen L. Fingerman
    • 1
    Email author
  • Yen-Pi Cheng
    • 1
  • Lauren Tighe
    • 2
  • Kira S. Birditt
    • 3
  • Steven Zarit
    • 4
  1. 1.Department of Human Development and Family StudiesUniversity of Texas at AustinAustinUSA
  2. 2.Institute for Social ResearchUniversity of MichiganAnn ArborUSA
  3. 3.Institute for Social ResearchUniversity of MichiganAnn ArborUSA
  4. 4.Department of Human Development and Family StudiesThe Pennsylvania State UniversityState CollegeUSA

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