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Compatibility and Incompatibility in Children’s Peer and Sibling Relationships

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Peers and siblings are central figures in children’s social worlds. They are not just playmates, but have fundamental roles in shaping a child’s course of development. For example, positive peer relations have been found to contribute to the acquisition of appropriate social behaviors, the control of agressive impulses, the development of norms and values, and other aspects of moral and cognitive development (Hartup, 1976). Although research on sibling relationships is not very extensive, siblings too have been found to be important caretakers and socialization agents (Furman & Buhrmester, 1982).

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Furman, W. (1985). Compatibility and Incompatibility in Children’s Peer and Sibling Relationships. In: Ickes, W. (eds) Compatible and Incompatible Relationships. Springer Series in Social Psychology. Springer, New York, NY. https://doi.org/10.1007/978-1-4612-5044-9_4

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