Individual Problems of Parents of Adult Children
Adult child-parent problems, as we have seen, fall into two categories—shared or individual. Some of the situations we will be discussing here may upset both parent and child, even though the children unquestionably have the undivided right and responsibility to decide what, if anything, to do about them. Under these conditions of mutual concern, parents may want to conduct themselves as if they were faced with problems like the legal, fiscal, and similar plights described in Chapter 11. In most of the scenarios we will now examine, the child has a clear right to do whatever it is that has been or is being done—the concerned parent is in fact the one with the problem. Parents create these individual problems for themselves in one of two ways: First, by inventing non-existent difficulties, letting the darker side of their imaginations run wild, or second, by intervening in their adult childrens’ affairs when they have neither the right nor the responsibility to do so. Clashes over lifestyles are especially prone to such misintepretation and overweening parental concern.
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