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Adam, a 9-year-old boy, sat at home feeling very sad and alone. He kept thinking about the group of boys who had decided to go together to the football game during the weekend. He stood in the school yard next to them, listening to their exciting planning. He had hoped that they would ask him to join them, and was distressed that they had completely ignored him. He had felt lonely, gone away, and could not stop asking himself again and again why they had not asked him to come with them, and why he had not been able to tell them how much he wanted to come.

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Margalit, M. (2010). Children’s and Parents’ Coping. In: Lonely Children and Adolescents. Springer, New York, NY. https://doi.org/10.1007/978-1-4419-6284-3_7

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