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“School can be a very lonely place” concluded Rick (a 10-year-old boy who had just moved with his parents and sisters to a new apartment). He talked with his father about the new school, summarizing his first week’s experiences: “I am so alone there, and not only because I don’t know the children in my class, but I feel that my teachers are not there for me. I don’t know why they don’t like me. Sometimes I feel that they don’t see me. I hate school.”

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Margalit, M. (2010). School Is a Lonely Place. In: Lonely Children and Adolescents. Springer, New York, NY. https://doi.org/10.1007/978-1-4419-6284-3_4

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