Autonomy, Identity, and Narrative Construction with Parents and Friends

  • Trisha L. Weeks
  • Monisha Pasupathi
Part of the Advancing Responsible Adolescent Development book series (ARAD)


Recently, while testing the feasibility of a laboratory procedure for studying adolescent conversational storytelling, we recorded a series of adolescent conversations in our laboratory. Adolescents were asked to choose recent events like an important decision, a recent self-contradictory experience, or a recent self-typical experience. They discussed the experiences with both their friend and their parent, and the order of these conversations was counterbalanced. Although the data set was not large, conversations were saturated with issues of autonomy, identity, and general adolescent concerns and comparisons of conversations were illuminating. Naturally, the data we present are limited and our discussion here focuses on issues the data raise for further exploration.


Identity Development Autonomy Support Moral Concern Golf Club College Choice 
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Authors and Affiliations

  1. 1.Department of PsychologyUniversity of UtahSalt Lake CityUSA

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