Patterns of Family Narrative Co-construction in Relation to Adolescent Identity and Well-Being

  • Robyn Fivush
  • Jennifer G. Bohanek
  • Kelly Marin
Part of the Advancing Responsible Adolescent Development book series (ARAD)


In this excerpt, a family with a 12-year-old adolescent co-narrates a shared sad experience, the death of the adolescent’s great-grandfather. As this example points to, family narratives are a window into how families construct a shared sense of history, understand and validate each others’ emotions and create a sense of who they are as a family, and as individuals, in the present.


Emotional Content Emotional Aspect Personal Narrative Expressive Writing Emotional Understanding 
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The research reported in this chapter was supported by the Emory Center for Myth and Ritual in American Life funded through the Alfred P. Sloan Foundation and was written in part as a contribution to an interdisciplinary project on The Pursuit of Happiness established by the Center for the Study of Law and Religion at Emory University and supported by a grant from the John Templeton Foundation. We thank Mary Ukuku, Kelly McWilliams, and Amber Lazarus for help on all phases of this project.


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Authors and Affiliations

  • Robyn Fivush
    • 1
  • Jennifer G. Bohanek
    • 2
  • Kelly Marin
    • 3
  1. 1.Emory UniversityDruid HillsUSA
  2. 2.Center for Developmental Science, University of North CarolinaChapel HillUSA
  3. 3.Manhattan College, RiverdaleNew YorkUSA

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