Parent and Family Coaching

  • Oana A. DavidEmail author
  • Roxana Cardos
  • Horea-Radu Oltean


This chapter focuses on evidence-based, positive parenting practices and contributions of Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy (REBT; Ellis, 1962) to the practice of parenting coaching. The process of parenting coaching is focused on the present, with the aim of promoting child and parent adjustment, and makes use of RE-CB coaching techniques to help the parent reach their goals, by identifying future directions and implementing the necessary steps to reach those goals. The specific purpose of the parenting coaching process is to develop parents’ skills (e.g., emotion management skills, positive parenting, rational thinking), with the ultimate goal of increasing the functionality of the parent-child relationship and foster child autonomy and socialization. The assumption is that by receiving close assistance, monitoring and feedback during the implementation of these abilities and skills will facilitate the desired changes in relation with the child.


Rational parenting Positive parenting Parent coaching Family coaching 


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Authors and Affiliations

  • Oana A. David
    • 1
    Email author
  • Roxana Cardos
    • 2
  • Horea-Radu Oltean
    • 3
  1. 1.International Coaching Institute, Department of Clinical Psychology and PsychotherapyBabes-Bolyai UniversityCluj-NapocaRomania
  2. 2.Department of Clinical Psychology and PsychotherapyBabes-Bolyai University Cluj-NapocaCluj-NapocaRomania
  3. 3.Babes-Bolyai University, Cluj-NapocaCluj-NapocaRomania

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