Coping with Blame

  • Vlad Beliavsky


It should be noted that the non-judgmental attitude advocated by many therapies could be a tall order. Even trained and experienced specialists could wrestle with their blame feelings from time to time. The purpose of this chapter is to discuss the methods how counselors, mental health specialists, and even ordinary people can cope with their blame feelings if needed. One argument is that the belief in determinism and attention to the past histories of people could mortify blame responses. I argue, however, that these mechanisms may spell doom for some cases, failing to give a sufficient effect. For example, attention to past histories may fail to extinguish blame fully if people encounter cases of violent crimes or radical evil. As an alternative, I argue that another mechanism to temper blame would be to attend to the underlying beliefs of blame feelings.


Suspension Past histories Cognitive method The demand for goodwill 


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  • Vlad Beliavsky
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  1. 1.Psychology, PhilosophyUniversity of WarwickCoventryUK

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