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Is Mediation Too “Feminine” for Him? Men and Masculinity During Mediation Communication

  • Brett H. ButlerEmail author
  • Aza Howard Butler
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Abstract

Few studies focusing on conflict resolution and communication explore how mediation affects male participants. Applying research on masculine and male studies, this article identifies how the mediation process itself may alienate, intimidate, or offend participants by virtue of their gender identity, regardless of the gender of the mediator(s). The article concludes by providing insights and tactics for mediators who wish to encourage male participants to communicate more actively, fully, and honestly in order to conclude the mediation process with a greater sense of fairness for all.

Keywords

Alternative dispute resolution Gender Sexuality Mediation Divorce 

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Authors and Affiliations

  1. 1.English DepartmentMorgan State UniversityBaltimoreUSA
  2. 2.Aza Butler Mediation and Conflict Resolution ServiceTowsonUSA

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