Idealization and Romantic Beliefs in Love

  • Victor Karandashev


This chapter discusses pros and cons of romantic love beliefs, positive and negative aspects of idealization in love. Empirical research of romantic beliefs shows cross-cultural and gender differences in romantic love idealization.

The chapter reviews the variety of romantic love beliefs, the methods, and measures, which researchers employed to study those, and the results that they obtained in their studies using Romantic Beliefs Scale, Hobart Scale, and Knox-Sporakowski scale, among others. The chapter describes in detail (1) the research designs, (2) methods, (3) instruments and measures, (4) samples (including their location, sample size, and other details), and (5) the data and results of studies (including descriptive statistics, such as means and size of correlations).

The details of descriptive statistics help readers understand what the differences in the means for cultural samples are, what is the size of correlations, and other statistics. These details allow readers to make independent judgments about reliability and validity of results.


Romantic love Idealization in love Romantic beliefs Romantic beliefs in America Romantic beliefs in Africa Romantic beliefs in the Caribbean Islands Romantic Beliefs Scale Hobart Scale Knox-Sporakowski scale Gender differences in romantic beliefs Cross-cultural studies of romantic love beliefs 


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Authors and Affiliations

  • Victor Karandashev
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  1. 1.Department of PsychologyAquinas CollegeGrand RapidsUSA

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