How Parents Influence Their Children’s Friendships

  • Zick Rubin
  • Jone Sloman
Part of the Genesis of Behavior book series (GOBE, volume 4)


Friendships are among the central ingredients of children’s lives, from as early as age 3 and, in some cases, even earlier. Children’s relationships with their peers directly affect their well-being, provide an opportunity to learn and practice social skills, and may establish enduring patterns of relating to others (cf. Rubin, 1980). Parents typically recognize the importance of children’s friendships and often try to help their children establish and maintain rewarding friendships. Even parents who have no specific intention of influencing their child’s friendships can hardly avoid doing so, through the settings they choose to live in, their reactions to the child’s social behavior, and the values they convey through their own relationships with others. Whether or not these parental influences are intended, and whether or not they are recognized by the parents themselves, they are among parents’ most important legacies to their children.


Social Contact Nursery School Parental Influence Home Base Social Style 
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Authors and Affiliations

  • Zick Rubin
    • 1
  • Jone Sloman
    • 1
  1. 1.Department of PsychologyBrandeis UniversityWalthamUSA

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