Sharing it all

1. Front Matter

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2. A Personal Journey

   1. A Personal Journey

      • Lucia A. Gilbert

      Pages 19-29

3. The Setting: Women and Men

   1. Front Matter

      Pages 31-31

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   2. Women’s Slowly Changing Reality

      • Lucia A. Gilbert

      Pages 33-58

   3. Careers and Caring: Can Men Manage Both?

      • Lucia A. Gilbert

      Pages 59-81

4. Living as a Two-Career Family

   1. Front Matter

      Pages 83-83

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   2. The Husband-Wife Relationship

      • Lucia A. Gilbert

      Pages 85-107

   3. What about Children?

      • Lucia A. Gilbert

      Pages 109-144

   4. Two Careers in the Same Family: The Career Side

      • Lucia A. Gilbert

      Pages 145-166

5. How to More Than Manage

   1. Front Matter

      Pages 167-167

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   2. Stress and Coping in Two-Career Families

      • Lucia A. Gilbert

      Pages 169-191

   3. How Counseling Can Help

      • Lucia A. Gilbert

      Pages 193-215

   4. What Lies Ahead?

      • Lucia A. Gilbert

      Pages 217-225

6. Back Matter

   Pages 227-249

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I realize more and more that to some degree psychol­ ogists study their own lives. My first studies in the mid-1970s looked at the conflicts that emerge in dual­ career couples as the partners combine their various roles. Ideas for the early studies initially came from con­ versations with clients, friends, and people I met trav­ eling. Soon after the topic of dual careers came up, dis­ cussions of guilt and frustration followed. The partici­ pants in my first studies turned out to be predominantly women. Men expressed little interest in participating. A common response was, "Talk to my wife. " 7 8 PREFACE Ostensibly, husbands saw their partners, but not themselves, as dealing with conflicting roles. Although I presumed this to be somewhat true, I knew from ob­ serving my own husband that my having a career had an immeasurable impact on him. Were men denying something? Were women overly sensitive? Discussions with my husband, which helped me to get a better grasp on what male partners might be feeling, planted the seed for my subsequent book on men in dual-career 1 families, published in 1985. In gathering material for that book, I was struck by the contrast with men's ear­ lier disinterest. Husbands appeared eager to talk about their lives. Their greatest concern-what happens to the children?-became the focus of my last set of studies. Why this book? "Sharing it all" symbolizes the es­ sence of a two-career marriage.

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• children
• conflict
• conflicts
• marriage
• women

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